The dynamics of any given relationship is by far one of the most difficult things to piece together. When incestuous relationships are involved however, that dynamic may seem even more difficult to place. Examining one of the most popular incestuous relationships, we can begin to see how these dynamics still work day to day. Father – Daughter incest is seen as one of the most controversial. The relationship is one that would cause most people to voice opinions they’d otherwise neglect voicing. At the core of the relationship, is the familiar echoes of parent – adult child dynamics which can complicate matters even further. As uncommon as it may seem, father – daughter incest is actually quite common, if not sought out especially. Taking that into account, it only seems necessary to explore the dynamics of such a taboo relationship.
Many people who look at the relationship between any man and woman, are quick to discover that they crave different things out of their relationship. At the core of the relationship is the dynamic of what each person most craves from the other. That one dynamic is critical, as without it, the entire relationship would fall apart. For men, the most essential item in any relationship is respect. This means that above all else a man wishes his opinions to be heard, his loving affection returned, and above all else, his solutions to situations applied. When it comes to a woman, these are not the same sought after items. For a woman, the thing she craves most out of a relationship is value. To a woman, nothing matters more than knowing her partner finds her irreplaceable, useful, and altogether needed.
Looking at the relationship between a man and woman in general, can help when looking at that of a father and daughter. At the core of the relationship, is still a man and woman, trying to navigate more than just a sexual relationship. What differs then, is actually the core dynamic that many fail to realize. What is it that makes what a daughter feels for her father and vice versa so different than that of an average relationship? The answer may be one so simple, that it is actually quite surprising. For many, a daughter is taught the one thing that a man, especially her father, craves above everything else. A daughter is taught right from the start to respect and listen to her father. Whether she likes the situation or not, whether she believes the advice or not, a daughter will often find for herself that her father knows far better.
In return, a daughter, at the same time, is naturally valued highly by her father, and he often says so outright. The relationship right from the beginning, is one in which both people have their needs met. Not only are their needs met, but it is met in the most desirable way. Whether there is a sexual attraction or not, out of that mutually respected and valued dynamic, can often come a far more intimate relationship. Given the odds of such relationships occurring, it stands to reason that a sexual relationship might develop given enough time. In fact, the time for such a sexual attraction to develop could be far shorter than some would like to believe. What happens between a father and daughter at the very core of the relationship is a deep understanding of each other’s basic needs.
The dynamics in any relationship are tough to navigate, let alone understand. When it comes to incestuous relationships however, that dynamic can be even more complicated. Examining these dynamics is a critical part of understanding the cultural taboo associated with incest. Authors repeatedly examine these hard to place dynamics, often telling stories that readers not only enjoy, but find fascinating. Whether one examines incestuous relationships or not however, at times, the lessons learned are just as valuable elsewhere. Understanding what men and women both crave out of a relationship is critical, especially if we want to better understand incestuous relationships as well. In the end, we might find that incestuous relationships aren’t as taboo as we once suspected.